Why do we always need to be right?

I have experience with this subject, to the point when I just dealt with it a few hours ago with my significant other.

He turned to me and said "Remember when you screamed while I was sleeping? Don't do that again, it wasn't funny."

For some reason, this made me upset because he has pranked me so much that I felt I needed to turn it into an argument that I had to win. Why? What does it matter? It's what WE do.

So, why do women need to be right?

Well, there are multiple reasons for this need to be right, and I believe it boils down to three that tend to be at the core of that need.

1. Inferiority: I am in no way saying that women are inferior to men. I will just say that right off the bat. The inferiority I am speaking about is the feeling women might have when this really is a "man's world". Yes, women have many rights and we are making great strides but there are speed bumps and roadblocks along the way. If a woman accepts a job or a position typically given to a male (EX: Military, police enforcement, etc.) they may be accepted by some but certainly not all. There is a stigma of women being smaller, weaker and therefore, unfit for any physical job or one that requires mental strength. I disagree with those that think a woman is incapable of a job a man can do, but that's just me.

Here's another example: I am an online gamer. I love going online and playing video games, especially on LIVE with multi-player. I am then able to converse with fellow players and have fun, but the moment they discover that I am a woman and not a little boy, it immediately begins; Get back in the kitchen! Go make me a sandwich! Sometimes when a woman is having an argument or even makes the slightest slip up, some men tend to label them as "just another stupid woman", so sometimes when we're in an argument we just want to avoid losing. How would you like it if you felt that by losing an argument, you are making all women look bad? It's a lot of pressure! Any time a woman in any position makes a mistake, the comments begin and all progress is lost.

2. Female Vs. Female: Have you ever told one of your girlfriends about something another woman had done and about how much it bothered you? Well, if they hear that and see that at some point in their past that they had done something similar, they immediately need to top that incident with the woman.

Example: I hate when girls talk on the phone for so long! Oh, well I never do that. Well, you do it sometimes. But I don't do it as long...right? ............

Now, if it ever comes up again, let's say on the phone, that phone conversations are hated, the woman suddenly sees herself as the girl that annoys her partner or friend. This can make anyone defensive and lead into an argument that focuses on how unalike your girlfriend is from your previous girlfriend. It's all out of insecurity, but come on, who can blame her? No one likes to be compared to an ex or an annoying friend especially if it's another woman.

3. Maybe she's right: Did you even consider the possibility that she is right? Yes, women can be right and we will stick to our guns about it, whether the argument last hours or is brought up sporadically throughout the years. We need to know we are right, not only from ourselves, but we need to hear it from the one we are arguing with. So, make it easy on yourself. If you're wrong, let her know you are wrong and that you're sorry. Simple.

ADVICE: These are not the only reasons why a woman might need to feel right. Let's face it though, who doesn't like being right? Male or female, it feels good to know that you are the winner of an argument whether it's over something simple like the name of an Actress in a movie, or something a little more serious, like politics. In either situation, just know when to cut your losses. If a woman makes a mistake, don't hold it against her and certainly do not hold it against all other women in your life, or in general. You know how you guys out there hate hearing about ex's? Well, women hate hearing about being wrong or how they are even comparable to someone from your past who was wrong about...anything. So just don't go there and, like I said, just know when to give up. When you are fighting, whether male or female, just think to yourself "Is it worth it?" More times than not, it isn't.

After fighting with my boyfriend about pranks, I decided to apologize and let it go. However, if he ever brings it up again....there will be blood.....

Some New Ideas

As I embark on this Blogging journey, I have equipped myself with a fair amount of ideas and some sense of wit which I have gathered throughout the years of my life. You might think I have an abundance of starting points for this blog and questions that I can attempt to answer, but the truth is I still want more.

I want to answer questions that the readers ask, and not simply what I feel like posting about. As mentioned in my first post, I would like this to be a joint effort.

So, for the scant few of you out there reading this little blog of mine, I ask you this....

Will you help a girl out?

What questions do you have about women and the things we do?

I have a few ideas, but I would like yours as well.

The Purpose

With a blog title such as the one I have decided upon, I feel it is important to tell readers who the "we" is and what the "things" are. There's more to it than you might think.

First, I would like to share a little background about myself that will give you some kind of idea of what you are in for if you do decide to follow this blog. Oh, please do follow. It will get good, I promise.

I am just a girl from a small town in New York. Shocking, right? Most people picture big buildings and taxis rocketing towards pedestrians, but there is more to New York than the city. However, it's not as interesting, so I can understand the misconception. It only helps make New York look better to picture it that way anyhow.

I have lived in small towns for most of my life, even though I had been shuttled around quite a few when I was younger. I even managed to move upstate for a bit to attend college, so I have been around....a little. During my extensive travels, I often spent free time people watching. If that "people watching" isn't clear enough, what I would do is sit at a bench outside or at a table in a coffee house and simply watch the people around me and the ways they would interact. I would see fights and hear those whispered conversations that, I mean honestly, everyone else could here as well. Try being quieter!

I find people to be interesting, but there is one side of the spectrum that I could relate to more, and have often been asked advice about, and that would be the women.

That brings us to the "we". Why do WOMEN do the things they do? Now, you must be thinking "How can she know why it is women do the things they do, when she hasn't met them all!?", and all I can say to that is that I simply don't. I do not have a psychology degree, I have not roamed the planet in the short span of time I have been here asking every woman I meet why it is she ordered the salad instead of the steak, or why she likes to take pictures at an angle. All I know is that I have watched a lot of people, I have spoken to a number of my friends about why they do what they do, and the fact is, I am a woman. I have SOME idea, don't I?

Is that enough for you? I can understand if it is not, but that is why this is a blog. I will have followers and I will have those abandoning ship due to my lack of credentials other than a vag. That's how the cookie crumbles.

Now we have come to the "things we do". To some women I may be seen as a traitor for sharing our little secrets, and to others I will seem like a liar, and to a fair few, I might just make some sense. There is a method to our (women) madness. We all know what the other is capable of. We all know that when we see another woman doing something like, for example, bending over to pick something up without bending her knees, is quite obviously showing off her goods to someone in that room. Maybe what I say does not apply to you. Maybe you are an exception to the rule, or maybe you are the type of woman that is aware of what a woman can do in a situation and doesn't always seize the opportunity, but notices when someone else does. Maybe, maybe, maybe.......

Again, this is simply a blog. Like it or hate it, I will say this for myself: I can be right.

It has happened.

So, as stated, you can leave this blog never to return or you can come back and love to hate me or love to love me. Personally, I'd prefer it if you all came back in either case.

Maybe I can even help. I am sure there are others out there wondering what it might mean if....(FILL IN THE BLANK) and I can help out, and so can others by leaving helpful tips and alternate meanings. Let's make this a joint effort!

Let's have fun, ladies and gentleman.

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I know I will.