Why do we always need to be right?

I have experience with this subject, to the point when I just dealt with it a few hours ago with my significant other.

He turned to me and said "Remember when you screamed while I was sleeping? Don't do that again, it wasn't funny."

For some reason, this made me upset because he has pranked me so much that I felt I needed to turn it into an argument that I had to win. Why? What does it matter? It's what WE do.

So, why do women need to be right?

Well, there are multiple reasons for this need to be right, and I believe it boils down to three that tend to be at the core of that need.

1. Inferiority: I am in no way saying that women are inferior to men. I will just say that right off the bat. The inferiority I am speaking about is the feeling women might have when this really is a "man's world". Yes, women have many rights and we are making great strides but there are speed bumps and roadblocks along the way. If a woman accepts a job or a position typically given to a male (EX: Military, police enforcement, etc.) they may be accepted by some but certainly not all. There is a stigma of women being smaller, weaker and therefore, unfit for any physical job or one that requires mental strength. I disagree with those that think a woman is incapable of a job a man can do, but that's just me.

Here's another example: I am an online gamer. I love going online and playing video games, especially on LIVE with multi-player. I am then able to converse with fellow players and have fun, but the moment they discover that I am a woman and not a little boy, it immediately begins; Get back in the kitchen! Go make me a sandwich! Sometimes when a woman is having an argument or even makes the slightest slip up, some men tend to label them as "just another stupid woman", so sometimes when we're in an argument we just want to avoid losing. How would you like it if you felt that by losing an argument, you are making all women look bad? It's a lot of pressure! Any time a woman in any position makes a mistake, the comments begin and all progress is lost.

2. Female Vs. Female: Have you ever told one of your girlfriends about something another woman had done and about how much it bothered you? Well, if they hear that and see that at some point in their past that they had done something similar, they immediately need to top that incident with the woman.

Example: I hate when girls talk on the phone for so long! Oh, well I never do that. Well, you do it sometimes. But I don't do it as long...right? ............

Now, if it ever comes up again, let's say on the phone, that phone conversations are hated, the woman suddenly sees herself as the girl that annoys her partner or friend. This can make anyone defensive and lead into an argument that focuses on how unalike your girlfriend is from your previous girlfriend. It's all out of insecurity, but come on, who can blame her? No one likes to be compared to an ex or an annoying friend especially if it's another woman.

3. Maybe she's right: Did you even consider the possibility that she is right? Yes, women can be right and we will stick to our guns about it, whether the argument last hours or is brought up sporadically throughout the years. We need to know we are right, not only from ourselves, but we need to hear it from the one we are arguing with. So, make it easy on yourself. If you're wrong, let her know you are wrong and that you're sorry. Simple.

ADVICE: These are not the only reasons why a woman might need to feel right. Let's face it though, who doesn't like being right? Male or female, it feels good to know that you are the winner of an argument whether it's over something simple like the name of an Actress in a movie, or something a little more serious, like politics. In either situation, just know when to cut your losses. If a woman makes a mistake, don't hold it against her and certainly do not hold it against all other women in your life, or in general. You know how you guys out there hate hearing about ex's? Well, women hate hearing about being wrong or how they are even comparable to someone from your past who was wrong about...anything. So just don't go there and, like I said, just know when to give up. When you are fighting, whether male or female, just think to yourself "Is it worth it?" More times than not, it isn't.

After fighting with my boyfriend about pranks, I decided to apologize and let it go. However, if he ever brings it up again....there will be blood.....